Honestly, it seems the two schools of thought on marriage are thus:
Your life will NEVER be THE SAME ever EVER.
It’s pretty much a continuation of what you were doing the day before you got married.
All signs point to: yes, some things will change; yes, some things will be the same; life goes on but doesn’t go back.
So here’s the thing… We’ll be married six months from today. In fact, the moment at which we are married is the moment when we declare our own consent to be married to each other. I find that to be a lovely Catholic thing – no one else’s words can declare us to be married, but rather it’s our own words that bind us. Quoting the Catechism time : the priest (or deacon) who assists at the celebration of a marriage receives the consent of the spouses in the name of the Church and gives the blessing of the Church.
Bonus Catholic thing: we’re not allowed to write our own vows, which is great, because I’m quite happy not having one more thing to do. Relatedly: there are two different versions of vows that one can use for Catholic nuptials, and they both say “in sickness and health”, so my allergies are apparently welcome to stay. 😉
Here’s the thing. We’ve got a long-but-I’m-sure-it-will-pass-quickly six months ahead of us. According to the anecdotes of the world, apparently everything but possibly nothing will change once we’re married. Your task, should you choose to accept it, is to throw me your best, wisest, most amusing advice… and your anecdotes to convince me that we’re going to be just fine with this whole marriage thing. [Note well: I’m not worried.] My lovely unmarried friends, please do share with me all your thoughts on the things I should make sure don’t change. After all, I’m still ME, even if those will no longer be my initials. 🙂
While I await your words of wisdom and sacramental stories, know this: our Orioles fandom won’t be changing.